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noblemchikezie
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Unfortunately nearly 70% of people will have experience with an abusive romantic partners sometime in their life. This is because most people enter relationships wanting control because of something that has happened in a previous romantic relationship. Recovery from an abusive relationship is a lifelong process. If a person believes that they are ever completely over the emotions surrounding being mistreated by someone they loved, they are not being honest with themselves. Recovery is possible, however it is a continual process.
When a person has been abused usually it is because on some level they allow it to happen. This is usually because they do not have the self-esteem necessary to set good boundaries in relationships. Generally speaking most people repeat relationship patterns that they have experienced before. Therefore breaking a relationship with an abusive pattern requires the development of boundaries on the part of the victim. Boundaries can only be developed when an individual has increased their personal level of self-esteem. In many cases this requires continual counseling so that an individual can learn about their weaknesses on an emotional level.
Understanding that life is a work in progress is the first step to recovery. Expecting instantaneous results when a person decides to change their viewpoint about a previous abusive relationship is not realistic. Instead, a person must learn how to take personal inventory of their emotions regarding the decisions they are making on a daily basis.
Once they have done this they can establish whether or not the decisions they are making are positive or negative. Sometimes we must make negative decisions to learn life lessons that will change our perception in the future. Therefore it is not realistic to expect that we will never make mistakes in judgment. Instead, they should endeavor to forgive themselves when we make mistakes and learn what has caused them to make these errors in judgment.
Abusive relationships happen because people believe that things are taking place are a result of their own doing. The prom often starts when people need the other person angry enough to be abusive to feel wanted. This misconception must be changed before a person can truly believe an abusive relationship patterns behind.
Personal responsibility for their own decisions and actions should be placed upon every individual. Failure to hold the person responsible for their decisions is not going to help them, instead it only serves to enable them to not make positive changes in their own life. This is unfortunate because the majority of the world allows abusive patterns to continue even though they do not want to be victims for a longer period
If a person does not expect change from others after they have changed themselves, they will only repeat the patterns that have existed previously. This means that whether or not a person falls into another abusive relationship is completely up to their own determination. That gives the abuse survivor a lot of personal power. That personal power should raise the individual's self-esteem so that they do not fall into another abusive pattern.
When a person has been abused usually it is because on some level they allow it to happen. This is usually because they do not have the self-esteem necessary to set good boundaries in relationships. Generally speaking most people repeat relationship patterns that they have experienced before. Therefore breaking a relationship with an abusive pattern requires the development of boundaries on the part of the victim. Boundaries can only be developed when an individual has increased their personal level of self-esteem. In many cases this requires continual counseling so that an individual can learn about their weaknesses on an emotional level.
Understanding that life is a work in progress is the first step to recovery. Expecting instantaneous results when a person decides to change their viewpoint about a previous abusive relationship is not realistic. Instead, a person must learn how to take personal inventory of their emotions regarding the decisions they are making on a daily basis.
Once they have done this they can establish whether or not the decisions they are making are positive or negative. Sometimes we must make negative decisions to learn life lessons that will change our perception in the future. Therefore it is not realistic to expect that we will never make mistakes in judgment. Instead, they should endeavor to forgive themselves when we make mistakes and learn what has caused them to make these errors in judgment.
Abusive relationships happen because people believe that things are taking place are a result of their own doing. The prom often starts when people need the other person angry enough to be abusive to feel wanted. This misconception must be changed before a person can truly believe an abusive relationship patterns behind.
Personal responsibility for their own decisions and actions should be placed upon every individual. Failure to hold the person responsible for their decisions is not going to help them, instead it only serves to enable them to not make positive changes in their own life. This is unfortunate because the majority of the world allows abusive patterns to continue even though they do not want to be victims for a longer period
If a person does not expect change from others after they have changed themselves, they will only repeat the patterns that have existed previously. This means that whether or not a person falls into another abusive relationship is completely up to their own determination. That gives the abuse survivor a lot of personal power. That personal power should raise the individual's self-esteem so that they do not fall into another abusive pattern.
