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She says; “ I noticed for some time that Michael, My husband, had been emotionally distant from me and was treating our children coldly, His behaviour changed soon after we were connected to the internet, and I supected that he was viewing pronography on the computer. One night after the children had gone to bed, I cornered him, and he confessed that he had been viewing pornographic web sites. I was devastated. I couldn’t believe that this was happening to me. I completely lost trust in him. To make matters worse, a workmate had recently started to express a romantic interest in me,”
He Says: “some time ago my wife, maria, discovered a picture stored on our computer and confronted me about it. When I addmitted that I regularly visited pronographic web sites, she was livid. I felt horribly embarrassed and very guilty. I thought it was the end of our marriag.”
What do you think happened to Michael and Maria’s relationship? You may think that viewing pornography was Michael’s main problem. But as Michael came to realize, this vice was really a symptom of a deeper issue-a lack of commitment to the marriage. When Micheal and Maria were first married, they looked forward to a life of shared love and enjoyable experiences. Like many couples, though, their commitment to the marriage waned over time, and they seemed to drift apart.
Do you feel that the bond between you and your mate has weakened as the years have passed? Would you like to reverse that trend? If so, you need to know the answers to three questions: what does it mean to be committed to you marriage? What challenges can undermine such commitment? And what can you do to strengenthen your commitment to your mate?.
What Is Commitment?
How would you define commitment in marriage?. Many would say that it springs from a sense of duty. For example, a couple may remain committed to their marriage because of their children or because of a duty they toward god, the originator of marriage.(Genesis 2; 22-24) Certainly, such motives are admirable and will help a marriage survive difficult times. But to be happy, marriage mates need to feel more than just a sense of obligation to each other.
God designed marriage to bring a couple deep-seated joy and contentment. He intennded for a man to “ rejoice with {his} wife” and for a woman to love her husband and feel that her husband loves her husband does his own body.(Proverbs 5-18, Ephesians 5-28). To create that sort of bond, a couple must learn to trust each other. Equally important, they need to develop a lifelong friendship. When a man and woman earn each other’s trust and work at becoming the best of friend, their commitment to the marriage will grow. They will from a bond the Bible describes as being so close that it is as if the two people were
ne flesh” Mathew 19:5.
Commitment, therfore, could be likened to the mortar that binds the bricks of a sturdy house. Mortar is made from a combination of ingredients, including sand, cement, and water. Similary, commitment is formed from a combination of such factors as duty, trust, and friendship. What may weaken that bond?.
What Are The Challenges?
Commitment requires hard work and self sacrifice. It demands that you be willing to forgo your own preferences in order to please your mate. However, the concept of yielding to someone else’s wishes- of giving without asking, what’s in it for me? – has become unpopular with many and even offensive to some. But ask yourself, “How many selfish people do I know who have a happy marriage? Likely the answer is. Few if any. Why? A selfish individual will not likely remain committed to a marriage when personal sacrifice is required, especially when personal sacrifice is required, especially when ther is no immediate payoff for the small concessions he or she may make. Without commitment, a relationship will sour, no matter how sweet the romantic feelings were when a couple first fell in love.
The Bible realistically acknowledges that marriage is hard work. It states that “the married man is anxious for the things of the world, how he may gain the approval of his wife,” and that “the married woman is anxious for the thing of the world, how she may gain the approval of her husband” (1 Corinthains 7: 33-34). Unfortnately, even marriage mates who normally are unselfish do not always acknowledge each other’s anxieties or value their mates’s sacrifices. When a couple fail to show appreciation for each other, their marriage is bound to cause them more ‘ tribulation in their flesh’ than it would otherwise. I Corinthians 7: 28.
If your marriage is to survive difficult times and to thrive during good times, you need and to delelop a long-term view of your relationship. How can you develop such an attitude, and how can you encourage your mate to remain committed to you?.
How To Strengthen Commitment:
A key factor is humbly to apply the advice of God’s Word, the Bible. By doing so you will “benefit yourself” and your mate. (Isaiah 48:17) consider just two practical steps you can take.
1. Make Your Marriage Commitment. “ Make sure of the more important things” wrote the apostle Paul. ( Philppiain 1:10) In God’s eyes, the way a husband and wife treat each other is very important. A man who honors his wife will be honored by God. And a woman who respect her husband has ‘greate value in the eyes of God.” – 1 Peter 3: 1-4,7.
How important is your marriage to your?. Usually , the more important an endeavor, the more time you spend on it. Ask yoursllf: over the past month, how much time did I set aside just to spend with my mate? What specific things have I done to reassure my mate that we are still good friends? If difficult to believe that you are committed to the union.
Does youur mate think that you are committed to your marriage? How can you find out?.
He Says: “some time ago my wife, maria, discovered a picture stored on our computer and confronted me about it. When I addmitted that I regularly visited pronographic web sites, she was livid. I felt horribly embarrassed and very guilty. I thought it was the end of our marriag.”
What do you think happened to Michael and Maria’s relationship? You may think that viewing pornography was Michael’s main problem. But as Michael came to realize, this vice was really a symptom of a deeper issue-a lack of commitment to the marriage. When Micheal and Maria were first married, they looked forward to a life of shared love and enjoyable experiences. Like many couples, though, their commitment to the marriage waned over time, and they seemed to drift apart.
Do you feel that the bond between you and your mate has weakened as the years have passed? Would you like to reverse that trend? If so, you need to know the answers to three questions: what does it mean to be committed to you marriage? What challenges can undermine such commitment? And what can you do to strengenthen your commitment to your mate?.
What Is Commitment?
How would you define commitment in marriage?. Many would say that it springs from a sense of duty. For example, a couple may remain committed to their marriage because of their children or because of a duty they toward god, the originator of marriage.(Genesis 2; 22-24) Certainly, such motives are admirable and will help a marriage survive difficult times. But to be happy, marriage mates need to feel more than just a sense of obligation to each other.
God designed marriage to bring a couple deep-seated joy and contentment. He intennded for a man to “ rejoice with {his} wife” and for a woman to love her husband and feel that her husband loves her husband does his own body.(Proverbs 5-18, Ephesians 5-28). To create that sort of bond, a couple must learn to trust each other. Equally important, they need to develop a lifelong friendship. When a man and woman earn each other’s trust and work at becoming the best of friend, their commitment to the marriage will grow. They will from a bond the Bible describes as being so close that it is as if the two people were
ne flesh” Mathew 19:5.Commitment, therfore, could be likened to the mortar that binds the bricks of a sturdy house. Mortar is made from a combination of ingredients, including sand, cement, and water. Similary, commitment is formed from a combination of such factors as duty, trust, and friendship. What may weaken that bond?.
What Are The Challenges?
Commitment requires hard work and self sacrifice. It demands that you be willing to forgo your own preferences in order to please your mate. However, the concept of yielding to someone else’s wishes- of giving without asking, what’s in it for me? – has become unpopular with many and even offensive to some. But ask yourself, “How many selfish people do I know who have a happy marriage? Likely the answer is. Few if any. Why? A selfish individual will not likely remain committed to a marriage when personal sacrifice is required, especially when personal sacrifice is required, especially when ther is no immediate payoff for the small concessions he or she may make. Without commitment, a relationship will sour, no matter how sweet the romantic feelings were when a couple first fell in love.
The Bible realistically acknowledges that marriage is hard work. It states that “the married man is anxious for the things of the world, how he may gain the approval of his wife,” and that “the married woman is anxious for the thing of the world, how she may gain the approval of her husband” (1 Corinthains 7: 33-34). Unfortnately, even marriage mates who normally are unselfish do not always acknowledge each other’s anxieties or value their mates’s sacrifices. When a couple fail to show appreciation for each other, their marriage is bound to cause them more ‘ tribulation in their flesh’ than it would otherwise. I Corinthians 7: 28.
If your marriage is to survive difficult times and to thrive during good times, you need and to delelop a long-term view of your relationship. How can you develop such an attitude, and how can you encourage your mate to remain committed to you?.
How To Strengthen Commitment:
A key factor is humbly to apply the advice of God’s Word, the Bible. By doing so you will “benefit yourself” and your mate. (Isaiah 48:17) consider just two practical steps you can take.
1. Make Your Marriage Commitment. “ Make sure of the more important things” wrote the apostle Paul. ( Philppiain 1:10) In God’s eyes, the way a husband and wife treat each other is very important. A man who honors his wife will be honored by God. And a woman who respect her husband has ‘greate value in the eyes of God.” – 1 Peter 3: 1-4,7.
How important is your marriage to your?. Usually , the more important an endeavor, the more time you spend on it. Ask yoursllf: over the past month, how much time did I set aside just to spend with my mate? What specific things have I done to reassure my mate that we are still good friends? If difficult to believe that you are committed to the union.
Does youur mate think that you are committed to your marriage? How can you find out?.
